u tried the Samsung Kies srtwfaoe that came with the phone ? check if there is a srtwfaoe CD in ur phone's box. i cant help much sorry man.i dont know much about the OS or the phone. i use Nokia's E5. i know about Android OS though. if u have some doubts try asking in the iGyaan forums or some Bada OS forum ok ?
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